How we see ourselves

     … The confusion

People everywhere struggle to understand who they are, and what makes them different from everybody else. Many people come to a point somewhere in their lives and ask, “Who am I? What am I worth?  How am I different from everybody else? Upon what do I base my sense of Self?” Unfortunately, there are many others who never go there… fearful of discovering what they suspect has been true all of their lives… “I’m not worth knowing.” Reality is, that is the way many people live.  Going about their work and leisure everyday, not being sure about who or what they are. But the nagging questions still remain…    Why don’t I feel confident in who I am?  What would it be like to be really me? The Danish philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard,  pointed out more than a century ago, with keen  insight, …that the most common form of despair is to be in despair at not choosing, or willing, to be oneself; and that the deepest form of despair it to choose to be another rather than oneself.  All of this vague talk simply means that most of us really don’t want anybody to know what we’re really like. So we choose to be like somebody else. Somebody, we hope, others will like a lot better than who we really are. In simple language, we all wear costumes.
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People experience more anxiety about what may happen if facts about themselves are disclosed than is actually experienced when such facts are disclosed. -Victor Frankl
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