Until we find some kind of answers to these confronting questions, we tend
to go about life with a “business as usual” attitude, not knowing the answers
and not knowing how to find them.
But because we have to give some kind of a performance, we put on
different costumes, and keep trying different ones until one seems to fit.
John bishop said, We get so much in the habit of wearing a disguise before
others that we eventually appear disguised before ourselves.
Sometimes the costume and mask we find
ourselves wearing, is not one we would have
chosen ourselves, and we find ourselves wearing
an image that someone else has thrust upon us.
However it is you who holds the privilege and right to decide who you are.
Never be what and who others want you to be
The tragedy is only exposed when we try to take the costume and mask off,
we find it won’t come off. It’s stuck hard. And when we look longingly in the
mirror, we wonder what we would look like if we ever got a good look at our
real selves underneath.
If the costume and mask have been on
all of our lives, and we finally are able to
remove them, we can have great
difficulty in recognizing the form
underneath. After all, we may have
never seen it before.
What we don’t always realize is that our understanding of who we are,
affects our whole approach both to life and our relationship with other
Therapist Ernie Larson said, “We live our lives according to how we see
Being able to change the way you feel about yourself..
Feeling at peace with yourself and with others..
Having a sense of value that others notice and respect,
Being able to look people in the eye with confidence..
Believing and feeling that others respected me and liked being with
Not worrying about what others thought of me..
The Good News
… is that the costume and mask can be removed.
… I can discover the real and exciting me underneath.
… I can find the right Self-Image to replace the one I didn’t ask for.
Is this some thing you would like to
Ever feel as though you’re wearing a
mask? If you removed your mask, how
would you feel about people seeing the
What’s Your Costume?
… explore the possibilities
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