Why don’t we talk about Self-Esteem?
Back around the early eighties, the term Self-
Esteem began to be heard. It was one of
those expressions that quickly took hold in
society. It all seemed like a good idea.
Teachers started using it, parents learnt about it, judges
and lawyers started using it, social workers, counsellors
and psychologists started writing about it.
As a counsellor, I have conducted many presentations to
small groups on the topic of our self-image, and have
asked the question many times, “What does the term
There is always a wide range of opinions on what people
think it is, but the common agreement is that Self-Esteem
is the positive value we put on ourselves. It is also known
Much was and still is being written about it.
People like Nathaniel Branden said,
“Self-esteem is the single most significant key to
Stanley Coopersmith wrote,
“Self-esteem is a personal judgement of worthiness
that is expressed in the attitudes the individual holds
Others have gone as far as saying,
“It is a matter of the extent to which we experience
ourselves as appropriate to life and to the
requirements of life.”
Wow. That sounds really serious.
But it all seems quite acceptable doesn’t it. Except for one thing.
It has all gone horribly wrong!
It has become a disastrous way of seeing yourself.
Find out why it’s no longer useful …
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