Why don’t we talk about
Self-Esteem on this site?
Back around the early eighties, the term
Self-Esteem began to be heard. It was one
of those expressions that quickly took hold
in society. It all seemed like a good idea.
Teachers started using it, parents learnt about it, judges and lawyers started
using it, social workers, counsellors and psychologists started writing about
As a counsellor, I have conducted many presentations to small groups on
the topic of our self-image, and have asked the question many times, “What
does the term Self-Esteem mean?”
There is always a wide range of opinions on what people think it is, but the
common agreement is that Self-Esteem is the positive value we put on
ourselves. It is also known as Self-Worth.
Much was and still is being written about it.
People like Nathaniel Branden said,
“Self-esteem is the single most significant key to
Stanley Coopersmith wrote,
“Self-esteem is a personal judgement of worthiness
that is expressed in the attitudes the individual holds
Others have gone as far as saying,
“It is a matter of the extent to which we experience
ourselves as appropriate to life and to the
requirements of life.”
Wow. That sounds really serious. But it all seems quite acceptable doesn’t
it. Except for one thing.
It has all gone horribly wrong!
It has become a disastrous way of seeing yourself.
… explore the possibilities
The beliefs we hold
about ourselves will
determine our choices
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