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This is a profound saying. It has a lot of truth in it. What does it
The beliefs we have about ourselves, will dictate how we act,
behave and influence the choices and decisions we make. More
concerning, it also means that our self-beliefs can and will affect
our moods, our energy and our overall view of the world around
How can simple beliefs be so powerful?
Tracy had a belief that she was not good at making
conversation. Consequently, she believed she was not good at
making friends. Whenever Tracy was invited out to parties, she
would find some excuse not to go. After all, everyone else
would be chatting away but she knew she would be standing by
herself, and that would be lonely. Why go?
If she ever did go, as she entered, she would gravitate towards
the outside of the room, the quieter places where she would be
less likely to have to talk to someone.
The fact that fewer people were less likely to get to meet Tracey, validated her
belief that she was not a good communicator.
Lee, had a belief that he could write and could create a good
stories that people liked to read. Looking through the adds in
the paper one day, he noticed a job as an editor with a popular
magazine. Lee thought, “I could do that, in fact, I’d love it”.
So he sent in an application and was invited to an interview.
Not surprisingly, he got the job and thoroughly enjoys it.
These two examples illustrate just how our lives are lived out according to the
beliefs we hold about ourselves. If we have a belief that we are not good with
words, it is highly unlikely that we will ever apply for a job writing or talking to
people. If we have a belief that we can cook, we won’t mind asking our
friends around for dinner.
Many people say, “Why do I keep making
the choices I do in life?”
The problem is, that if we are living our lives according to the negative or
unhealthy beliefs we hold about ourselves, we will continue to make choices
influenced by those beliefs, and those beliefs will undoubtedly work against
Unhealthy beliefs lead to unhealthy
choices, which result in unhealthy actions
If we want to start making different choices, and living different behaviours,
we need to examine the beliefs that are holding us back.
In the book Identity and Uniqueness, the author outlines sixteen common ways
that we may have learnt some of the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Once we have identified where we took a left turn in life, it’s not hard to
create new pathways of thinking that can create new ways of being and living.
The outcome can be better than we ever
We live our lives according to the way
we define ourselves -Earnie Larson
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